Last week I attended the going-away-party of one of my closest friends at SUCCESS, Jennifer Chang. I made the hike all the way up to Denton during what became an almost 3-hour lunch break.
It’s a shame that Chang won’t be around anymore.
But it was great seeing the old crew again. However, when the inevitable goodbyes came, there was the inescapable, “We should get together again sometime.”
This “sometime” never happens though.
I had to hit the restroom and on the way out some of my fellow blog mates were laughing at my car. They said the old let’s have breakfast “some time”. I mentioned I was going to blog about this “some time” business. And since it is no use to bring up an issue without proposing a resolution for it I wanted to propose this.
Countless are the times spent with friends I haven’t seen in a while and many fare-thee-wells end with a “to be continued”. But no one picks up the ball to run with it. Now dear reader, do not be afraid, because I have the answer for you.
Set a time.
That is all you have to do.
Immediately give a time (how about next Thursday) or even a range if you are unemployed (I’m free any time in the next two weeks). With that, the onus is on the other to say Yea (Thursday would work) or Nay (Ooooh, the next two weeks are kinda booked).
What you are looking for is a counter, if any.
With this, you can also gauge the interest of your friend. Maybe seeing you twice in a two week period would be too much. Perhaps you didn’t know it but you are a semi-annual or quarterly friend at best.
Maybe you are like poison, okay in small doses.
But to Hugh and Matthew who might be reading this (Nathan if you can wake up that early), I propose croissants at dawn next Tuesday at the La Madeline across from the Waffle House we last met.
I’ll be the man smoking two cigarettes.